Actively Wait

“Argh! I wish I have someone I can talk to and share wonderful, great ideas and memories. And even at the silliest of things. Someone a degree higher than a friend. Someone I can call my girlfriend! My significant other!”

That was my battle cry for 23 years.

Actually, it evolved through time. During the first year, my battle cry was “waaaaaaaaa!” Then it became “mam.” Until I can finally cry for “milk!”

Yes, I just turned 23 this year.  And since birth, I had no girlfriend.

Can you imagine how difficult it was for me and for the girls around me? Because school is my priority, I had to turn down every woman that would come up to me applying for that girlfriend position. (As I write this, I lack sleep)

Until I met her.

And I’ve actively waited for her.

Today, I’d like to talk about waiting.

Waiting is probably one of the most difficult things for a single person to do. Inspirational author for single women, Rissa Kawpeng, knew this personally.

She was married at the age of 38.

She said in her book, “I knew that the Lord had someone in store for me because I believed I was called to the married life. But it was the waiting that was killing me! When the pain of loneliness would strike, I'd turn to the Lord and sometimes pray, ‘I know You can do it. In a blink of an eye, You could send that man for me. So why don't You just do it?’ Yes, God has a purpose for making us wait that many times we don't see it. In my case, I now realized that the many years I spent as a single woman wanting to be a bride have equipped me to be an inspiration to countless others on their ‘wait training.’”

I remember during my college days, I told myself to focus on studies first. I’ll be honest, I prayed to God to give me a girlfriend… but not that persistent.

At the time I finished school, it became stronger. And I became more religious. Almost every day I claim to God and thank Him for a girlfriend that is coming my way.

Days, weeks, months and years have passed and the door for that area of my life was still locked and closed.

But instead of hiding myself in bed under my pillows, I started to work on myself. I used my free time to attend seminars. I went to the gym. I launched a blog site. I managed a business. I read a lot of books. I listened to a lot of talks. I met a lot of people and gained new friends. I increased my self-esteem.

I actively waited for the woman of my dreams.

In hindsight, I realized that, like Rizza, those many years I spent as a single man wanting to have a girlfriend have equipped and prepared me to love myself more.

And I believe that by loving yourself more, you’ll have abundant love for yourself that you can’t help but share that love with other people.

Ohh! I almost forgot. During my waiting time, I enjoyed life. I took vacations. Mini ones. This is the part of my life where I met a gorgeous, fantastic woman who would become my girlfriend. Yes! God gave me the key to unlock that closed door of my life.

Now, we are enjoying life together. And we’re actively waiting and preparing for the time when the next level of our relationship presents itself.

If you're single right now, just wait. Actively wait.

Love yourself more.

Increase your knowledge.

Learn a new skill.

Serve.

Enjoy life.

"Everything that happens in this world happens at the time God chooses. (Ecclesiastes 3:1)"

Praying for you,

Kevin